Mommy Wars: The Present

July 2, 2013


The past four blogs have looked at the history of the so-called “Mommy Wars”, and how the arguments for and against working not only marginalized women who were not privileged enough to actually have a choice, but simply did not ring true for those that did. So where does that leave us today? Are the mommy wars still being fought, and what are women choosing to do about it?

According to a 2010 report from the U.S. Department of Labor, women comprised 58.6 percent of the labor force, that is some 72 million women.* While not all of these women have children, it would be a fair assumption to assume the vast majority do have children, or are planning on having children some time in the future. The media paints these women as up in arms against SAHMs, gloating over the fact that they will never know the fulfillment that work outside the home can bring (NYTimes). The other side, the media says, consists of self-sacrificing mothers who admonish working women for selfishly putting their desires before the well-being of their children.

But are these the opinions of real, live women? Actually, no – these are just media caricatures created to sell books and draw in daytime television audiences. Actual mothers, it seems, support one another. As Michele Moehren says, “[we as women] embrace our different parenting choices. Because seriously people, the world needs more love and less judgement” (Huffington post). Or as my friend Renee says so eloquently, “the reality remains, different families have different needs; mothers have different needs; individual children have different needs. The needs can be any number of things including financial, emotional or physical. One simply cannot seek to apply one right/holy feminist answer to all situations and people”. Women supporting women, regardless of choices. What a radical concept.

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